So who is stressed? what is stress? are you stressed out ALL THE TIME? do you know when you’re stressed? Stress is the way your body reacts to a threatening situation or event. Think about the last time you felt threatened or someone came attacking you with threatening words and actions. Fight? or Flight! it still causes you stress. Imagine being under constant stress…24/7 and for over half your life time? All of the above is constantly happening to your body. After being under such stress for so long than it takes affect on the health of your body & mind. People wonder why the diabetes & hyper tension rate in First Nations people are so high…well it’s because they’re always under constant stress right from when they were carried in their Mother’s womb (especially if the Mom smoked, drank alcohol or used drugs) to being a baby (when growing up in an atmosphere that is stressful or insecure) to childhood (growing up with no Father around or there’s not enough food to eat, or if their parents are too busy indulging in their addictions or parents are unemotionally unavailable because they’re dealing with issues from Residential School or past abuse OR they themselves get abused and no where to go to for help) and this carries on over to adulthood. Over crowding in a house, having a shitty house, not having a job to be able to feed your family and constantly eating processed food. Processed foods have high salt intake, high sugar intake and takes more energy for your body to get rid of from the system…so thus leading your body to more stress. Stress is a sneaky nasty bitch. As a parent, it is your responsibility to make sure your child doesn’t deal with your adult stresses. I have learned to manage my own personal/work and relationship stress so I don’t add on to my children’s already stressful lives. I want them to be better people than I am in many possible ways and one of them is learning how to manage their own stresses, learning how to live for themselves and learning how to be the best humans they possibly can. They work hard but they also play hard. I love my children…they are the coolest people I know lol so everything I can do to my capacity is for them.
NOW! HOW to De-stress!!
BREATHE!! learn to take deep breaths and be in the moment. EXERCISE! go for walk, drag the kids out for walk. try to eat as much veggies and unprocessed foods as you can… Take up a hobby, go fishing, go for a boat ride, go for a bike ride, bead, sew, play a game with your kids, read a book, let others help you in organizing an event, stop being a perfectionist, remember those that judge you have nothing better else to do but judge others, go have a weiner roast, spend time with nieces and nephews, learn to laugh, learn to let things slide and work out on their own. Step back and ask yourself…is this really worth my health? if not than let it go. learn how to talk…NOT scream, yell, rant or bitch…seriously that is just a waste of energy and personality. Think things through and learn to manage your reactions. Learn your personal boundaries and learn to accept yourself. I didn’t grow up with boundaries and I let people walk all over me and take advantage of my generosity & patience. Learn to let go of people whose behaviour stresses you out. You cannot control other people’s reactions or actions so once you accept them than let them go. You don’t need that stress because being you is stressful enough. again…exercise! it does wonders for your mental health (and physical health too!) and again…learn to let go. You only have this one life to live…don’t spend it trying to make other people happy or trying to make their lives easier…live for you! live for your own dreams and wishes for yourself. Make time for yourself and those you love in your life.